A MUM has revealed how she took on her sister-in-laws children due to “missing her old life.”
She explained that her and her husband, who already have two kids, were exploring the options of adoption or fostering.
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This came as the pair, who always wanted to have three or four kids, had complications with their first two pregnancies which resulted in the mum getting a hysterectomy.
The mum, who has decided to remain anonymous, shared her story with online publication Slate.
She explained that whilst she and her husband were exploring adoption options, her sister-in-law had got married and was pregnant with twins.
The mum explained that her husband’s sister had “never expressed much desire to have children and was definitely stressed to discover it was twins.”
When the twins were around six weeks old, they had them stay for a weekend whilst they went to a friend’s wedding.
But the next day, when it was 3pm the parents still hadn’t arrived back to collect their twins.
Speaking to Slate, the mum explained: “They’d decided to take advantage of sleeping in, had brunch then had a few shops they wanted to check out, and thought it was a nice break from the babies.
“Two weeks after the wedding, they asked to come visit us again.
“They told us that having twins was significantly more difficult than either of them had imagined and they were really missing their previous life and the ability to do whatever they wanted whenever they wanted.
“They said they knew we were considering adoption and wondered if we would take in their twins.
“They thought it would be the best solution as they could continue to see them and be involved in their lives (at their convenience).”
The mum revealed that she and her husband were left in “shock,” but spent the next month discussing options and even went to counselling sessions with them.
She also revealed that she took her sister-in-law to an obstetrician to discuss the possibility of postpartum depression.
But the outcome was that they “didn’t want to be parents and wanted us to take the kids.”
Husband’s family just acts like what they did was perfectly normal
Adopting mum
Both couples drew up a legal agreement, and they surrendered parental rights and we adopted the twins.
The mum continues: “We absolutely love the babies and feel like our family is complete now, but I don’t know how to interact with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law anymore.”
The adopting mum reveals that she has “lost all respect for them” as they “basically admitted that their kids were an inconvenience they wanted to be rid of.”
It has now been a year since they adopted, and “everyone” in her “husband’s family just acts like what they did was perfectly normal.”
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She even revealed that her brother and sister-in-law have even asked the parents to not tell the twins that they aren’t their biological parents which goes against the legal agreement we all signed.”
The adopting mum finishes the post by writing: “We plan to be open and honest with them about how they came to be a part of our immediate family.
“It’s so bizarre to me that everyone thinks this was a perfectly appropriate thing to do.”
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