A MUM has sparked debate online after slamming her ex for using the name of their son for his new baby boy who died shortly after birth.
The Reddit user explained that her son’s dad, who has not been in his life since he was born, gave the little one the same middle name as both himself and his father.
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But since getting into a new relationship and having another son, the ex decided to use the same moniker for the new baby – leaving the woman seeing red – despite him tragically passing away.
She wrote online: “I became pregnant with a boy and he was so happy that he wanted to give our son the same middle name as him and his father – I agreed, and he was given that name.
“He left shortly after our son’s birth and has not been in our life since. He has had a daughter and now a son with different mothers. Unfortunately, the boy did not survive after a premature birth.
“I saw the mother had posted about the baby boy and noticed they had used the same middle name for him as well as my son.”
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Despite knowing the little one had prematurely passed away, the mum couldn’t help but voice her anger at her son’s name being reused.
She continued: “I was PISSED. I feel that he used that name already and it belongs to my son, and it is rude to reuse it even if it is my ex and his father’s middle name too.
“I feel like he’s trying to pretend that my son doesn’t exist by doing this. And while part of me feels it’s wrong to feel bitter as the child didn’t live, I can’t control how much this pisses me off.”
She went on to add that she wouldn’t confront the pair about the name choice – but wanted to know if she was right to be annoyed.
I feel that he used that name already and it belongs to my son, and it is rude to reuse it even if it is my ex and his father’s middle name too.
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“I’m not mad at the baby,” she added. “I’m mad at my ex for acting like our son doesn’t exist. And I don’t blame the mother – she already lost one baby, so my heart goes out to her.”
But while the mum may have been hoping for sympathy from Reddit users, she was wrong to assume – as many took to the comment section to slam her.
“You don’t own rights to a name,” one man clapped back. “You’re allowed to be upset about it, but claiming that no one else can use it is childish.”
Another agreed: “You’re upset that your ex partner used the same middle name for his son who just DIED. Get some perspective…”
A third concurred: “It’s a family name which clearly has meaning – he isn’t necessarily doing it to spite you or insult your son. The man just lost his child – stop being selfish and get over yourself.”
Others were more sympathetic of the situation: “This seems to be more than about thew name. Pent up anger over him leaving? Him having more kids with other women?”
“Your ex may be an a**hole for giving your son his middle name and then dipping out of his life,” another said. “But you don’t have dibs on that name. You agreed to to let your son have it.”
