Is having children worth it? For mum-of-one Dominiece Regis, her answer was a resounding no.
The accountant from New York took to TikTok to share her reasoning, and perhaps surprisingly many of her 672,000 viewers were in agreement.
It’s not that Dominiece doesn’t love her three-year-old son Levi, but she feels that women need three ‘must-haves’ before they get pregnant in order to make motherhood ‘worth it’.
According to the mum-of-one, these are: a good partner, money, and a support system.
The mum, who shares her son with her husband Chad, said on TikTok: ‘For the lady who came on the internet and asked all the mums if children are worth it, I’m going to give you a short and quick answer: no, they aren’t.’
She adds that her son is the ‘greatest love’ she’s ever known but that with ‘every high there is an equal challenge to go with it’.
The three prerequisites
The three prerequisites Dominiece outlined are intended to make the challenges of parenthood easier, and she explained that at least two out of the three is preferable.
For her, a good partner is the most important of all. ‘You need someone who is going to be a team player, not stressing you out, not taking away from your peace, not being a hindrance and worse a child themselves,’ she said.
‘This means you’ll have someone to help you through the trenches because there will be trenches – no matter how perfect your child is.’
Then, Dominiece says you need money. ‘You need to be able to pay for the things that you cannot get if you don’t have a good spouse or partner,’ she added.
The support system is preferable but not essential if you don’t have it, according to the mum. But if you don’t have at least two of these things, then she said: ‘No kids are not worth it. Do not risk your life for it. Do not risk your sanity for it.’
When contacted for comment, Dominiece shared that she wished she’d understood the difficulties and complexities of ‘balancing parenthood and life’ before she had a baby.
She explained: ‘Here in the US, it’s very normal for both parents, like my husband and I, to work 40 hours a week, have to drop off and pick up the children, clean the house, cook dinner, do nighttime routines, and entertain and educate them when they are home.
![Story from Jam Press (Kids Not Worth) Pictured: Dominiece with her husband, Chad. ?I?m a mum and DON?T think having kids is worth it? A mother has gone viral on TikTok sharing why she doesn?t think having children is worth it ? and people are, unsurprisingly, divided. When answering the question ?Are children worth it?, Dominiece Regis, who has a three-year-old son, Levi, gave an initial, resounding no. The video, which garnered 665,000 views, left some viewers outraged, calling Dominiece and her supporters ?bad mothers? ? but the mum-of-one says it simply isn?t that simple. Explaining further, she presented three ?must-haves? she believes a woman should have prior to having children, which will make the experience ?worth it?. They include: a good partner, money, and a support system. ?I do wish I understood more of the difficulties or complexities of balancing parenthood and life beforehand,? Dominiece, an accountant living in New York City, US, told What's The Jam. ?Here in the United States, it's very normal for both parents, like my husband and I, to work 40 hours a week, have to drop off and pick up the children, clean the house, cook dinner, do nighttime routines, entertain and educate the children when they are home. ?Then on top of that, if you're fortunate enough, and not many people are, be able to spend the money to nurture your relationship with your partner (i.e. date night), and do family vacations. ?And on top of that, continue to nurture yourself as a person and mother. ?It's quite difficult and it was quite eye-opening for me ? and I only have one child for now.? Sharing her thoughts online, in the video Dominiece, who shares her son with her husband, Chad, says: ?For the lady who came on the internet and asked all the mums if children are worth it, I?m going to give you a short and quick answer: no, they aren?t.? However, she went on to clarify that while children will be the ?greatest love ever known?, with every ?high? comes a ?challenge? to go along with it. She said: ?If you want to have kids and make it worth it, you need the three things.? She then goes on to explain that a strong, supportive partnership is key and the most vital of the three, followed by a support system of family and friends nearby, and financial resources to fund parenthood. Dominiece added: ?But, if you don?t have those three things, then no the kids are not worth it. ?Do not risk your life for it, do not risk your sanity for it. ?You need a few of those things ? one to three ? hopefully all three, but most people don?t.? The post garnered more than 75,000 likes and attracted thousands of comments ? with many people debating their response. One person agreed: ?YOU NEED MONEY, AN AMAZING PARTNER, AND A VILLAGE.? ?I got all 3 and my answer is still NO?.? another person quipped. Someone else added: ?Once they?re here, yes. If you don?t have kids, hell naw they not.? [sic] But, not everyone was on board with the controversial statement. One person wrote: ?I?m a single mom and my child was worth it for me.? ?I'm a single mom of one, zero village and don't have a lot of money, but motherhood have changed me in the best way. I regret NOTHING,? said another viewer. Someone else commented: ?The amount of mothers saying "No" is kinda scary.? ?It?s worth it for me. But everyone?s opinions/feelings are valid. I love the woman I?ve become as a result of being a mom. I think being a host for life is special. But that?s me,? another user wrote. Another person added: ?I hope i never reach the stage where i think my child was not worth it.? In response to the post, Dominiece said: ?This video has definitely stirred the pot for sure and it's to be expected. ?Talking about children is a touchy topic for most people. ?However, the video has also opened the floor to be more open and honest conversation about motherhood. ?I mentioned to make children worth having you need a good, supportive partner, resources-but mainly money, and a support system. ?You don't have to have all three, you should, but a minimum of two of the three. ?I have all three, however our main support system ? grandparents ? are not in the same state as us, so I can recognise what parenting looks like without an immediate village around me. ?However, I have the resources to pay someone to help. ?Motherhood or parenthood isn't meant to be done alone nor should it be just survival parenting either. ?I'd say 85% of people and mums get it. ?The rest are triggered and don't fully comprehend the message, and a small percentage of people think I, and any mother who agrees with me are miserable, hate our kids and are bad mothers. ?I'm truly not phased. ?I'm very secure in my motherhood journey and I know what I said to be valid. ?I've gotten a lot of thank you?s for my honesty and perspective. ?Some think I'm telling them that their earthside child isn't worth it and that's not at all what I'm saying ? but, hey, I can't teach the internet how to critically think nor increase their comprehension skills. ?The ones that get it, get it.? ENDS EDITOR'S NOTE: Video Usage Licence: (NON-EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained a non-exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of the licence is available on request. Video Restrictions: None.](https://usercontent.one/wp/newsgroove.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/1737201151_230_Ive-got-a-three-year-old-but-I-dont-think-motherhood-is.jpg?media=1734934250)
‘Then on top of that, if you’re fortunate enough, and not many people are, you need to be able to spend the money to nurture your relationship with your partner (i.e. date night), and do family vacations.
‘And on top of that, continue to nurture yourself as a person and mother. It’s quite difficult and it was quite eye-opening for me – and I only have one child for now.’
What did the internet say?
The roughly 5,000 commenters pretty much agreed with her.
One person said: ‘You need money, an amazing partner, and a village,’ while another added: ‘I got all 3 and my answer is still NO….’
Someone even commented: ‘The amount of mothers saying “No” is kinda scary.’
Of course, not everyone was on board with the controversial statement.
One person said: ‘I’m a single mum and my child was worth it for me.’
‘I’m a single mum of one, zero village and don’t have a lot of money, but motherhood have changed me in the best way. I regret NOTHING,’ said another.
![Story from Jam Press (Kids Not Worth) Pictured: Levi. ?I?m a mum and DON?T think having kids is worth it? A mother has gone viral on TikTok sharing why she doesn?t think having children is worth it ? and people are, unsurprisingly, divided. When answering the question ?Are children worth it?, Dominiece Regis, who has a three-year-old son, Levi, gave an initial, resounding no. The video, which garnered 665,000 views, left some viewers outraged, calling Dominiece and her supporters ?bad mothers? ? but the mum-of-one says it simply isn?t that simple. Explaining further, she presented three ?must-haves? she believes a woman should have prior to having children, which will make the experience ?worth it?. They include: a good partner, money, and a support system. ?I do wish I understood more of the difficulties or complexities of balancing parenthood and life beforehand,? Dominiece, an accountant living in New York City, US, told What's The Jam. ?Here in the United States, it's very normal for both parents, like my husband and I, to work 40 hours a week, have to drop off and pick up the children, clean the house, cook dinner, do nighttime routines, entertain and educate the children when they are home. ?Then on top of that, if you're fortunate enough, and not many people are, be able to spend the money to nurture your relationship with your partner (i.e. date night), and do family vacations. ?And on top of that, continue to nurture yourself as a person and mother. ?It's quite difficult and it was quite eye-opening for me ? and I only have one child for now.? Sharing her thoughts online, in the video Dominiece, who shares her son with her husband, Chad, says: ?For the lady who came on the internet and asked all the mums if children are worth it, I?m going to give you a short and quick answer: no, they aren?t.? However, she went on to clarify that while children will be the ?greatest love ever known?, with every ?high? comes a ?challenge? to go along with it. She said: ?If you want to have kids and make it worth it, you need the three things.? She then goes on to explain that a strong, supportive partnership is key and the most vital of the three, followed by a support system of family and friends nearby, and financial resources to fund parenthood. Dominiece added: ?But, if you don?t have those three things, then no the kids are not worth it. ?Do not risk your life for it, do not risk your sanity for it. ?You need a few of those things ? one to three ? hopefully all three, but most people don?t.? The post garnered more than 75,000 likes and attracted thousands of comments ? with many people debating their response. One person agreed: ?YOU NEED MONEY, AN AMAZING PARTNER, AND A VILLAGE.? ?I got all 3 and my answer is still NO?.? another person quipped. Someone else added: ?Once they?re here, yes. If you don?t have kids, hell naw they not.? [sic] But, not everyone was on board with the controversial statement. One person wrote: ?I?m a single mom and my child was worth it for me.? ?I'm a single mom of one, zero village and don't have a lot of money, but motherhood have changed me in the best way. I regret NOTHING,? said another viewer. Someone else commented: ?The amount of mothers saying "No" is kinda scary.? ?It?s worth it for me. But everyone?s opinions/feelings are valid. I love the woman I?ve become as a result of being a mom. I think being a host for life is special. But that?s me,? another user wrote. Another person added: ?I hope i never reach the stage where i think my child was not worth it.? In response to the post, Dominiece said: ?This video has definitely stirred the pot for sure and it's to be expected. ?Talking about children is a touchy topic for most people. ?However, the video has also opened the floor to be more open and honest conversation about motherhood. ?I mentioned to make children worth having you need a good, supportive partner, resources-but mainly money, and a support system. ?You don't have to have all three, you should, but a minimum of two of the three. ?I have all three, however our main support system ? grandparents ? are not in the same state as us, so I can recognise what parenting looks like without an immediate village around me. ?However, I have the resources to pay someone to help. ?Motherhood or parenthood isn't meant to be done alone nor should it be just survival parenting either. ?I'd say 85% of people and mums get it. ?The rest are triggered and don't fully comprehend the message, and a small percentage of people think I, and any mother who agrees with me are miserable, hate our kids and are bad mothers. ?I'm truly not phased. ?I'm very secure in my motherhood journey and I know what I said to be valid. ?I've gotten a lot of thank you?s for my honesty and perspective. ?Some think I'm telling them that their earthside child isn't worth it and that's not at all what I'm saying ? but, hey, I can't teach the internet how to critically think nor increase their comprehension skills. ?The ones that get it, get it.? ENDS EDITOR'S NOTE: Video Usage Licence: (NON-EXCLUSIVE) We have obtained a non-exclusive licence from the copyright holder. A copy of the licence is available on request. Video Restrictions: None.](https://usercontent.one/wp/newsgroove.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/01/1737201151_672_Ive-got-a-three-year-old-but-I-dont-think-motherhood-is.jpg?media=1734934250)
‘It’s worth it for me. But everyone’s opinions/feelings are valid. I love the woman I’ve become as a result of being a mum. I think being a host for life is special. But that’s me,’ another mother added.
In response to the post, Dominiece said: ‘This video has definitely stirred the pot for sure and it’s to be expected. Talking about children is a touchy topic for most people.
‘However, the video has also opened the floor to be more open and honest conversation about motherhood.’
She added: ‘Motherhood or parenthood isn’t meant to be done alone nor should it be just survival parenting either. I’d say 85% of people and mums get it.’
Dominiece does add that there are a small percentage of people who have been triggered by her post and assume she’s a ‘bad mother’ and hates her child – but apparently this doesn’t phase her.
‘I’m very secure in my motherhood journey and I know what I said to be valid. I’ve gotten a lot of thank you’s for my honesty and perspective,’ she explained.
‘Some think I’m telling them that their earth-side child isn’t worth it and that’s not at all what I’m saying… The ones that get it, get it.’
Do you have a story to share?
Get in touch by emailing MetroLifestyleTeam@Metro.co.uk.
MORE: Charlotte Crosby reveals fiancé Jake Ankers was ‘devastated’ by their baby gender reveal
MORE: Mother-of-two shot to death by husband who sold her jewellery to buy drugs
MORE: ‘I called the police 169 times during my eight years of abuse hell’
