DO you ever struggle with your child answering back when you tell them it’s time to get off their video games console?
If you do, then you might want to take some tips from parenting coach Lisa Bunnage – who has the perfect way to teach defiant kids how to be nice.
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“I’m going to set up a scenario,” she began in a video on her TikTok page.
“He’s eight years old – he’s playing video games, you tell him to get off the games and he won’t.
“He might even swear at you, say ‘I’m not getting up’, and the only way you can possibly get him up is a physical confrontation, that’s not going to happen.”
So you just “let that topic go”, Lisa advises.
“He might play all day – I couldn’t care less,” she added.
Then, when it gets to the evening and he’s in bed, you “disconnect everything”.
“You might leave the TV there but disconnect it,” she said.
“If you think he’s going to break it I’d even put the TV away.
“Put it somewhere he can’t find it -put it in the trunk of the car, do what you got to do.
“Take it over to the grandparents’ house – I don’t care.
“This is a radical thing – he was being awful yesterday.”
The next morning, when he gets up and asks what’s going on, you should say: “Remember you were rude to me yesterday when I asked you to turn off the video game?
“This is what happens – it’s gone for two days now.
“We’ll bring it back in two days and we’ll see how things go from there. It was your choice – this is what happens.”
And then leave the conversation there.
“No more explaining yourself,” Lisa continued.
“Do not get put in a conversation defending your actions – that makes you weak and it makes you strong.
“Just say, ‘That’s it – we’ll discuss it again in two days’. Then change the subject.
“There’s no anger in this – it’s just leadership and guidance. It’s teaching him how to be nice – that’s what you want to do.”
In the comments section on Lisa’s video, people were quick to praise her for the tip.
“I love this!!!” one person wrote.
“I work with preteens and they clearly have no discipline at home! It’s the exact move I have done with my son’s xbox.”
“Love this!!!” another added.
“I am tired of being walked on by my children because moms on the internet tell me to be ‘gentle’.
“I want to raise respectful kids!!!”
A third added: “Mam, are you a genius??? This is great.”
