Do you usually get tongue-tied in the bedroom?
Those who are shy in the sack may think dirty talk is too difficult.
But actually, kinky conversations can be pulled off by anyone – as long as you have a place to start.
Sexpert Nadia Bokody recently revealed her tips for those who aren’t pros at dirty talk.
The writer also revealed some naughty phrases you can use in the bedroom.
If you feel self conscious about having any cheeky chats, it could be worth disassociating yourself with what you’re saying.
Many find playing a character helps to get them in the mood.
In her SheSaid column, Nadia explained: “The best way to ‘talk dirty’ is to find a medium that’s somewhere between being totally yourself and playing a character (such as a submissive school girl, or feisty dominatrix, depending on whether you prefer to be in control or more submissive in bed)…
“For example, if you enjoy being more submissive in bed, you may say something like: ‘I’ve been very bad.
“‘I think you might have to spank my bottom. Can you punish me?’”
“This is playful and sexy, but it doesn’t go so far as to be completely over-the-top.”
For those who are a little more versed in the language of love, the sexpert warns not to go over-the-top.
Nadia warns against using too many cliches – or going too hardcore – in the beginning.
She explained: “Dirty talk tends to become a little cringey when someone tries to be too creative, working in lots of tacky metaphors, like “I need your love wand inside me! Tear me open with your sword!”…
“Definitely use some porn-ish language, but again, avoid going too hardcore to begin with.”
As with trying anything new in the bedroom, it’s important to have a discussion with your partner before diving in the deep end.
Opening up should make it less awkward when you’re chatting during sex.
It also provides you with the opportunity to talk to your other half about their fantasies.
If you like to be submissive, use more doting language in the sack.
Contrastingly, those who want to be dominant should try to be more commanding.
