A porn director wants to educate the public about sex.
Erika Lust has launched a series called The Lust Ed, which explores topics including pleasure, kinks and intimate health.
In her first episode, the adult entertainment expert teamed up with fetish coaches Tyomi Morgan, JetSetting Jasmine and King Noire.
The foursome revealed all about the world of BDSM – and how to experiment with dominance and submission for the first time.
Five BDSM tips from master fetish instructors, as revealed to Daily Star Online:
1. Safety first
Before trying out something new in the bedroom, it’s important to have a discussion with your partner first.
Setting some boundaries is the best way to ensure that both parties are feeling comfortable.
While domination can involve adopting a ruthless character, you should always use safe words to keep communication open.
King Noire also recommends the traffic light method.
Red means stop, yellow is slow down and green is go faster.
PILLOW TALK: Love gurus revealed all about trying BDSM for the first time (Pic: GETTY)
2. Get into character
If you feel nervous about exploring your inner dominatrix or submissive, try taking on the voice of a character.
Tyomi enjoys being called a “Goddess” by her sub, but there are plenty of other titles you can adopt.
Mistress, Queen and Alpha are among the names that are popular in the BDSM community.
3. Start slow
Always test the waters instead of starting off too enthusiastically.
When experimenting with spanking, focus on fleshy parts of the body to avoid inflicting any long-term pain.
The sexperts recommend striking the shoulders, glutes, thighs and calves.
Slowly working your way up your partners’ body helps to build anticipation and intensity.
It also gives them the opportunity to voice how they’re feeling about the sensations.
SAFETY FIRST: Always come up with a safe word before trying BDSM (Pic: GETTY)
4. Check in
While the dominant lover should control their submissive, it’s also their responsibility to keep the romps safe and consensual.
Always listen out for safe words and give your partner the opportunity to speak about their comfort levels.
Jasmine explained: “If she’s at a green, it doesn’t mean we have to reward her and give her more, it’s just good to know, she’s okay.
“The dom gets to decide whether she gets more pleasure.
“It is very important for a Dom to pay attention to little clues that can show us that we need to check in or stop.”
5. Aftercare
It’s important you don’t get too swept up by what you see in pornography or films.
King Noire said: “This is real life. Not everything is going to go like in a film or in your fantasies. You can never be too safe.”
After engaging in BDSM with your lover, it’s important to slip out of character.
It’s also important to debrief and talk about how you both felt about the kinky session.
